The Signs of ADHD on My Highlight Reel

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I imagined I was sitting in back in a darkened classroom in 6th grade in the second row of desks, third seat from the front. The projector kept making the thwap-thwap-thwap sound as it continued to swing the film reel around an around at the end of the movie. As the lights came up, disorientation ensued as my eyes were slow to adjust to the overwhelming amount of light.

My vision cleared and I was sitting in my therapist’s office. It was still that day—the one when she first brought up ADHD to me. The highlight reel of my life that had had just concluded and I sat in shocked silence as the truth resonated within me.

I can’t really put into words all of what I have discovered about myself since learning of my ADHD as a 37 year old adult. But I will share with you what came across my highlight reel. I’m no diagnostician. Some of these may be unrelated to ADHD, but they all fit together as pieces of my puzzle.

  • I am awful at keeping up with homework
  • I am a sensory avoider
  • I drink Diet Coke like health nuts drink water
  • I am a heavy, habitual procrastinator
  • I can’t pick out a conversation in a crowd or amid other interfering sounds
  • I have a terrible short-term memory
  • But I’m great at trivia
  • At work I’ve been labeled as being inattentive in meetings
  • I struggle to initiate and maintain eye contact
  • I am drawn to screens and can immerse myself in their content for hours
  • I am prone to addiction
  • I have carried a fidget for nearly 15 years and bring it out in meetings
  • I get physically and mentally restless in meetings
  • I have low impulse control that frequently defies my own professed values
  • I can’t let go of collections and possessions
  • I have piles all around my home and office due to disorganization
  • I have been told that I talk too much and I do tend to ramble
  • When I was a youth, peers reminded me to shower
  • It is nearly impossible for me to read and retain information from text books
  • But I will read novels all day long
  • As a teacher I was horrible about grading and lesson planning while at the same time I could spend hours a day in the minutiae of running school chess clubs
  • I can’t keep track of time
  • I currently have over 80,000 unread emails
  • I have probably broken more promises than I’ve kept, because I forget them almost as soon as I’ve made them
  • I am horrible with names. I usually can’t remember them even for the duration of the conversation when I first heard them
  • I have a myriad of unfinished projects at home and and work
  • I played many instruments and took private lessons for years, but I could probably count on one hand the number of times I actually practiced at home
  • There is a mountain of mail that covers half of a counter top in my house
  • I miss deadlines when there is no apparent consequence attached. If there is no deadline, most projects simply don’t happen
  • I am on my 3rd job in as many years and I haven’t felt good at any of my jobs during my 15 year career
  • I am only motivated to complete non-preferred activities if there’s a severe consequence attached to not completing them
  • I nearly failed my first semester of college because I quit going to the classes that were uninteresting or hard. I only succeeded the second semester because, threatened with academic probation, I pared down my class-load, put myself on a strict schedule that accounted for every half hour of my day, and I stuck to it the entire term
  • I am a great idea-man. I can brainstorm and get projects started like nobody’s business. But I’m horrible at follow-through
  • My older brother was diagnosed with ADD (now ADHD-Inattentive) when we were kids. My younger brother, though undiagnosed, could be a poster-child for ADHD
  • I’m unnecessarily quick to anger, especially in scenarios where there’s no apparent consequence for displaying my anger, like at home.
  • I have a disproportionate emotional response to most things.
  • I am prone to fixation and lose myself in desired activities

And those are just the ones I recorded in my journal in those first couple of days after that visit with my therapist. I’ve discovered more since, but even that list feels completely overwhelming.

Reading it brings up so much anger, frustration, and grief.

I am angry that my older brother was diagnosed as a child and I was not. I am frustrated that so many struggles of my life can be tied back to this one root cause that was operating just under the surface. I feel grief over the last 30 years of my life and over what might have been had I been made aware of ADHD and received treatment back then.

But there is also relief, and comfort, and hope.

I am relieved to finally know that I am not just a lazy, flaky, uncommitted slacker—and all the other things that family, friends, and employers might have said or thought of me. I am comforted to finally know why I have felt like I had to put in extra effort to just reach “satisfactory” levels. And I have hope because in even the brief time I have known about my ADHD I have made substantial progress toward improving my life.

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ADHD has plagued my entire life unmolested. But now I know it’s there. Yeah, yeah—even G.I. Joe taught that knowing is only half the battle. But knowing what I’m facing and having a clear path forward has given me strength and courage enough to stand and shout my battle cry as I begin to take back my life.

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Author: Jamie

At 37 I went to therapy and after two hours she asked if anyone had ever talked to me about ADHD. Surprise! I'm @ADHDsurprise on Twitter.

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